The sex industry and services offered can be a complete conundrum for novices and newbies. My sex dictionary is a compilation to describe the services I offer.
Anal rimming (or anilingus): Where you stimulate my anus by using your mouth (lips and tongue).
DATY (dining at the ‘Y’): Performing oral sex on me with my legs spread in a ‘Y’ position.
Girlfriend experience: A sexual encounter where we engage in reciprocal sexual pleasure and a degree of emotional intimacy. It involves a more personal interaction than a traditional call girl or escort offers with a focus on not just having sex, but also having more of a comprehensive experience.
Hand job: The manual stimulation of your penis or scrotum to induce sexual pleasure, sometimes resulting in orgasm.
Intercourse (or coitus/copulation): The insertion and thrusting of the penis, usually when erect, into the vagina for sexual pleasure.
Lap dancing: A type of erotic dance where I have body contact with you while seated, where I may be nude or topless.
Mutual oral: The classic 69 position which allows us both to give and receive oral sex at the same time.
Cum on body (COB): This is where I allow you to ejaculate on my body only (not the face).
Deep French kissing (DFK): Is an amorous kiss in which our tongues extend to touch each other’s lips or tongue.
Light Bondage: Mild bondage with the use of ropes, blindfolds, handcuffs, etc.
Light spanking: The act of gently spanking the bottom or other parts of the body for play.
Spanish: Where you stimulate your penis between my boobs.
Strap-on: A strap-on dildo is a dildo designed to be worn by me, usually with a harness, during sexual activity. This service is provided by me on you.
Aftercare: The time after a domination session in which you calm down, we discuss the previous events and your personal reactions to them, and slowly come back in touch with reality. Domination and submission often involves an endorphin high and is a very intense experience. Failure to engage in proper aftercare can lead to “subdrop”. In some relationships, aftercare may involve me caring for you if physical pain was inflicted, such as applying baby oil to areas that were struck during play.
Animal transformation: Fantasy in which the focus is on you entering the altered mindspace of a different species, eg. a dog, cat, etc.
Ball busting: Where I abuse your testicles.
Bastinado: The act of whipping the sub’s feet where the sub would usually be tied up to restrict movement as the torture is being inflicted – part of impact play.
Bondage (as opposed to physical restraint): Acts involving the physical restraint of a partner. Bondage typically refers to total restraint.
Breath control: Where I control your breathing.
Cock and ball torture (CBT): Torture of the male genitals for sexual gratification.
Domination: Having personal power over the sub/slave and being the object of devotion.
Domme: A woman who exercises control.
Electro-play: The practice of using electrical stimulation to the nerves of the body using a power source (such as a TENS unit) for purposes of sexual stimulation, body modification, tickling, or torture.
Erotic sexual denial: Where I keep you aroused while delaying or preventing resolution of your feelings so as to keep you in a continual state of anticipatory tension and heightened sensitivity.
Erotic spanking: Where I spank you for sexual arousal or gratification of one or both of us.
Fetish: A specific obsession or delight in an object or experience.
Flagellation: Flogging or beating for sexual gratification
Foot fetish: A pronounced sexual interest in the feet.
Foot worship: Kissing or licking my feet and/or boots/shoes to express subservience.
Foot domination: To worship and be dominated physically by my feet.
Golden shower: Urinating on, or being urinated on by me.
Humiliation: This can be done verbally such as name-calling, degrading, verbal belittlement, insults and verbal abuse, cruel remarks, mockery and ridicule. Physically by spitting on you, erotic objectification (eg. stepping on you or using you as a stool), forced sexual degradation (eg. cunnilingus/face sitting), servitude, body worship (including foot worship), deprivation of privacy and physical disciplining.
Impact play: Dealing with impact such as whips, riding crops, paddles, floggers, etc.
Infantilism: Parent/child or parent/baby role playing.
Maintenance: Weekly spankings to cover the little things that might have been missed during our session, and to remind you to behave and allow the release of stress.
Mummification: Immobilising the body by wrapping it up, usually with multiple layers of tight thin plastic sheeting. Breathing and other safety measures will be appropriately taken care of, often by leaving the face (or at least the mouth and nose) open. Your body temperature will be maintained in a warm environment and warm aftercare may be implemented if required. Mummification is often used to enhance a feeling of total bodily helplessness.
Needle play: Temporary piercings done with sterile acupuncture needles of varying gauges, usually only for the duration of a scene.
Ongoing master/slave relationship: Where I accept your submission and services as a slave for me to control you or have you serve my needs. You may submit your mind, body or soul to me.
Physical Restraint (as opposed to bondage): Restraint of certain parts of your body.
ProDomme: A female professional dominant who charges for her services.
Safeword: A codeword a sub/slave can use to force me to stop all activity – used especially in scenes which may involve consensual force.
Sensual domination: Mild domination with the use of oils, ropes, blindfolds, ice cubes, feathers, etc. May also involve foot or shoe worship.
Shaming: A primary slave emotion. You need to feel shame to be able to be controlled. This can be financially, verbally or physically attained.
Slave: A person (usually submissive) who consensually gives up total control of one or more aspects of their life to me.
Spanking: The act of spanking your bottom or other parts of your body.
Subdrop: A physical condition, often with cold- or flu-like symptoms, experienced by a submissive after an intense session of domination play. This can last for as long as a week, and is best prevented by aftercare immediately after the session.
Submissive: Or “sub” for short. A person who gives up control to me, either all the time or for a specified period (not to be confused with “slave”).
Tease and denial: Keeping you aroused while delaying or preventing resolution of your feelings, to keep them in a continual state of anticipatory tension and inner conflict, and heightened sensitivity while you are teased with varying implements.
Tit torture: The act of causing deliberate physical pain to the breasts and nipples.
Wax play: The top drips hot wax on the bottom.
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